Needed to Lose You to Love Me

There are some people in your life that you will connect with on an unimaginable level. It is like an invisible tie that brings two people together with commonality. A force that draws a source of attraction, and you seem like the most special person to exist. You see this beautiful image of the person you met, and then with time, the fun house mirror effect kicks in.

The challenge is forgetting the person you met and recognizing the person in front of you. When we ignore the reality that stares us in the face, we set ourselves up for heartbreak.

It is difficult to decipher what is a healthy relationship. When does it become toxic, and how do you know it is time to throw in the towel? Relationships are supposed to make you feel loved and supported, but society often does it wrong. Both parties involved want to be desired (albeit differently) they grow dependent on each other, sacrificing their own identities. What a rookie mistake; well, maybe not.

Codependency is nice when it is balanced; however, some couples spend all their time together, reaching the opposite extreme. It is essential to take some time to yourself to recharge your social battery. Boundaries are necessary to not step on anyone’s toes and understand how much of each other both parties can tolerate.

It is common to sacrifice our well-being for people we think have our best interests at heart. Sometimes it is necessary to shed those people the same way snakes do. We all want that perfect someone, but it should not be at the expense of your self-love. No matter how well you vibe with someone, if it harms you, then maybe losing that person isn’t as rough as it seems when the results make you that much stronger.